How to forgive your parents and your incompetent boss

Sometimes we feel that our parents have wreck our lives because they are alcoholics, promiscuous, divorced, etc…..and cannot forgive them because (our story here-) ‘that is because of them that I am an alcoholic/cannot commit to any relationships’. Using conventional psychology and Freudian to analyze the situation, we may have reasons to thank our parents [...]

Of letting go, forgiveness and being responsible for your feelings

While clearing my mailbox, I found this email that was forwarded to me in 2006. The message is meaningful, so I thought of sharing it here. Dr. Alan Zimmerman’s comments: Sooner or later, everyone you know will disappoint you in some way. They’ll say something or fail to say something that will hurt you. And [...]

Looking down on others could mean that….

When you read advice by successful self-help gurus who have gone through tough times before they become successful, most of them would say the same thing: If they can turn back time, they will not have done anything differently…. because mistakes, tough times and failures helped to shape them to be the successful person they [...]

Why Holding on to the Past May Be Bad for You

Many of us love to keep old memorabilias that reminds us of our past. We keep photos, gifts, old greeting/birthday cards, watch old movies and listen to old songs. It is okay if there are fond memories but if the past elicit feelings of regret and sadness due to wrong choices, passing away of a [...]

Why It is So Hard to Say Sorry

Do you find it easy to apologise if you have done something wrong or after a fight? If you have accidentally stepped on someone’s else foot, the words “I’m sorry” will come out automatically. But when we are engaged in an argument with our loved one, and our pride and feelings are hurt- often with [...]